Guest post by Eat Pray Workout
In a world that constantly screams ‘you’re not enough as you are and you need to be doing better at this, this, this AND this’, it can lead to us feeling discontent and agitated with where we find ourselves in life and often failing to notice, or be thankful for, the multitude of blessings that we have right where we are. As a result, it’s not unusual to become overcritical of ourselves. For instance, when was the last time you looked in the mirror and criticised your body? Compare that with the last time you told yourself you loved your body and gave thanks that it allowed you to love and care for others? If you’re anything like me, the former dialogue was definitely both more recent and frequent. It’s not peaceful, joyful or thankful – all things I would prefer to be. it’s important to address this and other similar thought patterns by being kinder to ourselves, so I want to share with you five ways to be kinder to yourself.
Being hard on yourself won’t bring change
Even though there are things I want to change in my life, I am fully convinced (from trial and error) that being hard on myself and thinking negatively about myself will not motivate me to spur on towards reaching my goals. This might work for the short term but you soon burn out, give up and remain discontent. So to help us actually reach our goals we need to be content with where we find ourselves each day and one way we do this is by working on being kinder to ourselves.
- Don’t compare yourself to others
Firstly, don’t compare yourself to others, especially those on social media. In the words of Eleanor Roosevelt, ‘comparison is the thief of joy’. We are all on different journeys and remember that social media only shows a very small selection of life. If you find social media leaves you feeling annoyed or sad then read my post about what to do when social media leaves your feeling inadequate.
- Give yourself YOU time
It’s so important to relax and have some down time doing something that rejuvenates you. Find it hard to know how? Here are some ideas on how to relax and distress.
3. Prioritise self-care
Self care is doing those things that help you look after yourself. This includes, getting enough quality sleep, exercising and giving some time to your appearance when you get dressed to help you feel good about yourself!
4. Think and speak positive words!
Positivity and affirming words are the keys to success. Practice changing your negative thoughts to positive ones. It might help to have some positive thoughts that combat reoccurring negative thoughts written down and stuck on the fridge. Don’t forget to smile too!
. Don’t be a perfectionist
Not only does being a perfectionist waste time but it also leaves you tired from trying to constantly reach high and unrelenting standards. I like to think of myself as a reforming perfectionist (a work in progress!). If you can also identify with this, check out this post about why being a perfectionist isn’t so perfect and overcoming perfectionism.
About the author – Amy Darcy, Eat Pray Workout
Amy Darcy is a Mum, lawyer and the editor of Eat Pray Workout, an Australian based online hub for women who want to be the healthiest, happiest version of themselves. You’ll find healthy recipes; articles on wellbeing; fitness and travel – all aimed at helping women gain a generally healthy, happy and balanced lifestyle. Subscribe here for weekly inspiring emails and to receive all of Amy’s workout printables for FREE! You can also connect with Amy on Instagram or Facebook.